Karen Quemby, MA Alzheimer Society of Muskoka"Writing is hard, very hard, especially when the situation is so close personally. You have to balance your emotions and memories with detachment and that takes GUTS."
Janet Lewis, Professor Emerita, York University, Toronto"Dear Tony is a real story of love and passion - how two people must navigate together the loss of health and the inevitability of being separated by life's course. I found myself waking this morning wanting to hold my husband close to me, as Emmy's story reminds me that this is a fate we all must live as we age, in one form or another. An inspiring read."
June Elder, B.A. Gerontology, B.A. Sociology
Feathery snowflakes on Tony’s birthday, they look like soft kisses. Oh how I miss him. Wiped a single tear, followed then by a half-smile of amusement. I do miss him. But not all day every day. Part of the missing is what we once had, the comfort of routines, income, and being a partner. Ahh, […]
Last night when I heard the rain hammering and wind blowing I thought about how my life is like the weather! An odd comparison, perhaps. It seems possible that anyone who is in transition is truly in the “November time” of our own calendar. Some days we close the curtains, put on our favorite pajamas […]
Giving thanks is precious action, ideally an everyday mindset we can turn to in dark times. Last evening, while sitting on my balcony, neighbours returned one by one from Thanksgiving dinner out. In particular, one older couple caught my attention. Their driver came around to the front seat passenger side of the vehicle and leaned […]
Thanks, Mister Rogers. Earlier this week when I tuned in to WNED Channel 17 broadcasting from Buffalo, N.Y.. the on-air program was a documentary about Mister Rogers. Caregivers travelling the Alzheimer road with a loved one more often than not feel overwhelmed with it all. These two memorable quotes hit home for me. • “Deep […]
July 2008 My dearest husband, I’m just sitting on the little verandah of our Kamping Cabin watching passersby, and not much activity. Even in the short time of about four hours since I drove you to the resort to spend some time with your son and daughter, I am already feeling more relaxed. Several chipmunks […]
Pulling weeds, akin to separating wheat from chaff, is a rewarding accomplishment. By 2013 Tony’s disease brought him to uninvited apathy. It was time to start the process of gradually clearing out unused items. Here’s an excerpt from Chapter 37. “When Tony’s daily exercise on the treadmill ceased, it sat idle for awhile and was […]
I want to share an inspirational post from my author friend Yvonne Heath. Even on sunshiney days we all need something to lean on. The privilege of sitting at the keyboard and sharing my Dear Tony thoughts with you is what sustains me. Keep your focus and move forward. http://www.loveyourlifetodeath.com/blogs–vlogs/finding-your-post
A dear friend recently commented to me that she thinks I’m still grieving. Her sensitivity pulled me up short; and upon reflection, I have to agree. Mourning is not always for loss of a loved one through illness such as Alzheimer’s disease or death. Whomever is left behind also grieves for “what was once ours” […]
I glanced often at a holiday picture on the bedroom dresser. Our faces seemed lost in time; no regrets, plenty of good fun – all behind us. Sometimes now, when someone looked at Tony they would see that “the lights were on, but nobody was home”. Like most couples our wedding day had been celebrated […]