Karen Quemby, MA Alzheimer Society of Muskoka"Writing is hard, very hard, especially when the situation is so close personally. You have to balance your emotions and memories with detachment and that takes GUTS."
Janet Lewis, Professor Emerita, York University, Toronto"Dear Tony is a real story of love and passion - how two people must navigate together the loss of health and the inevitability of being separated by life's course. I found myself waking this morning wanting to hold my husband close to me, as Sherry's story reminds me that this is a fate we all must live as we age, in one form or another. An inspiring read."
June Elder, B.A. Gerontology, B.A. Sociology
As I sat alone today at the back of a small church, feelings of joy overcame sadness. The pews slowly filled with reverent parishioners, people scooched along the smooth wood whenever they heard a new hesitant question whispered. “Is anyone sitting here?” By 1:45 it was standing room only and latecomers overflowed into the foyer. […]
Commitment to each other and the power of love.The ring on your finger and fulfilling a dream. Happy days. Reiterated between today’s enchanted and deliriously happy bride and groom. They are looking forward, many of us are looking back with full hearts. When you’re caregiving for a spouse it’s hard to feel starry-eyed sometimes, I […]
It’s All a Puzzle A television documentary this week impacted me when I followed the dedication and resourcefulness of the caregiver, a young woman whose husband has Multiple Sclerosis. Two of Alice Cook’s quotes resonated. “I just don’t think about the emotional side,” she says. “You get numb because you’re so busy. I literally don’t […]
…Let the world slip away On this almost perfect afternoon Can’t we stay in bed all day? Just this one day This golden Sunday with you On this sunny Sunday it is, as the lyrics go, an almost perfect afternoon. With Molly Johnson’s “Messin’ Around” CD jazzing up my space, I’m thinking about how time […]
Despite using a ruler and measuring, I somehow can’t draw a straight line. Might it be that my own horizon is crooked? Today, February 14th, I dislike the Valentine’s aspect, because my heart is still bereft. The logic behind reverently unwrapping the two small bears with heart-shaped angel wings seemed questionable; they were a gift […]
Tony began to retire upstairs earlier in the evening. He was at his best in mornings. By late afternoon his energy was spent, he tried his best to stay upright for an hour after eating to let his supper settle. He needed more help preparing for bed, and our established routine was that he would […]
I’ve noticed magazine advertisements depicting today’s “seniors” as more youthful both in appearance and lifestyle than even ten years ago. Anyone whose circumstances include jingle and folding money in their wallet and a personal health rating better than Good is truly fortunate. Partners are hopefully well-matched and can set a brisk pace, wanting to cover […]
Oldie goldie ballads and days of yore crooners evoke heartfelt emotions. The music and lyrics are pleasing to the ear. Anyone can hum along nowadays to specialty T-V channels, radio or CD releases. The resurgence of turntables and LP’s might pique your interest if they’re stashed in the basement or attic I recall as a […]
Deep Freeze Last night the temperature outdoors dropped to -30° and as 2:00 a.m. approached, the electricity conked out. All was still in the building, but for the sounds of snapping cold and creaking construction. It felt isolating and I felt unprepared for the unknown ahead with no emergency reserves at the ready. […]
It’s Christmas Eve day. Amid the usual hustle bustle of activity, let’s allow ourselves to enjoy those special moments fill our hearts and minds with fond reminiscence. Opening the package from my far-away friend on Christmas Eve was always special. Sitting in the candlelit living room when pets and hubby were abed, unwrapping her gift […]