Karen Quemby, MA Alzheimer Society of Muskoka"Writing is hard, very hard, especially when the situation is so close personally. You have to balance your emotions and memories with detachment and that takes GUTS."
Janet Lewis, Professor Emerita, York University, Toronto"Dear Tony is a real story of love and passion - how two people must navigate together the loss of health and the inevitability of being separated by life's course. I found myself waking this morning wanting to hold my husband close to me, as Emmy's story reminds me that this is a fate we all must live as we age, in one form or another. An inspiring read."
June Elder, B.A. Gerontology, B.A. Sociology
Little children familiar with Jiminy Cricket of Disney fame can usually remember the words to “When You Wish Upon a Star” – the words and melody still sing in my memory. Nursery verses of yore include “Twinkle, Twinkle, Little Star”…too special to forget and likely taught to our children and grandchildren. As the seasons change, […]
On November 11th in particular, the day’s activities revolved around Remembrance Day broadcasts. “I want to place a wreath on my Dad’s grave”, he told me one day. “But Tony, the weather is so damp and cold in November, and it’s a long way to drive. If you really want to though, I’ll be glad […]
Last week’s post touched a chord with many readers. I’m offering a excerpt from the next chapter for continuity. The cottage where I had stayed had a screened-in covered porch where I snuggled with the dog wrapped in blankets watching the rain. To reflect and be still was a cherished opportunity; three nights and then […]
The next morning the dog and I were on our way. The rain had stopped but it was windy. I hope the power isn’t down at the cottage. The small cottage was not far from town but on a private road. Cell phone service was scant at best and there was no landline. The anticipated […]
Tony’s home where we first lived was situated at the end of a cul-de-sac, surrounded by trees and walking trails. It was a rural area, though within the Town boundaries, and neighbors were collegial. In those years, some pet-owners allowed their pets to roam about and visit whomever or wherever, including an exuberant hound named […]
When he could not, would not, or did not complete a task, frustration exacerbated his proverbial short fuse. Tony’s outbursts became more predictable – the slightest variation from his set routine or anything unexpected raised his level of anxiety to extreme. He thundered with exemplary sound and fury until spent, followed often by tears of […]
Tony’s physical well-being became tenuous, with probability of fatal incident. In between bouts of cancer, further investigations of his heart identified additional blockages. “We need to discuss and make arrangements for my future,” he suggested. “I don’t want to leave everything for you to do”. He made several changes to his funeral wish list as […]
Immediately after the departure from my profession in November of 2013, there was a flurry of E-mails and phone calls in reaction; now the phone was quiet and I dropped from the line of vision. Chance meetings at the grocery store or bank seemed too infrequent – my peers were on a completely different timeline […]
Dear Tony, Today is Wednesday, June 10th. I’ve just turned the key in the lock of our home for the last time. I walked away without looking back. It’s been a hellish six months since you died. You know I’ve always been a go-getter with a lot of guts – knowing you’re still cheering me […]