"Dear Tony is a beautiful story that shares with readers the love, humour, immense dedication, and grief of caregiving. Sheridan illustrates the inner tests, contemplations and revelations of the journey and life changes caregivers face, while offering practical tips. A perfect gift for anyone who may be facing the challenges of loss and other peculiarities of dementia."

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  "Dear Tony is a real story of love and passion - how two people must navigate together the loss of health and the inevitability of being separated by life's course. I found myself waking this morning wanting to hold my husband close to me, as Emmy's story reminds me that this is a fate we all must live as we age, in one form or another. An inspiring read."

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Excerpt from Chapter 17

Uncategorized | July 18, 2016

When he could not, would not, or did not complete a task, frustration exacerbated his proverbial short fuse. Tony’s outbursts became more predictable – the slightest variation from his set routine or anything unexpected raised his level of anxiety to extreme. He thundered with exemplary sound and fury until spent, followed often by tears of […]

Decisions …#8

Uncategorized | June 26, 2016

Tony’s physical well-being became tenuous, with probability of fatal incident. In between bouts of cancer, further investigations of his heart identified additional blockages. “We need to discuss and make arrangements for my future,” he suggested. “I don’t want to leave everything for you to do”. He made several changes to his funeral wish list as […]

Decisions…excerpts from Chapter 17

Uncategorized | June 19, 2016

Immediately after the departure from my profession in November of 2013, there was a flurry of E-mails and phone calls in reaction; now the phone was quiet and I dropped from the line of vision. Chance meetings at the grocery store or bank seemed too infrequent – my peers were on a completely different timeline […]

Letter to Tony – 2015

Uncategorized | June 5, 2016

Dear Tony, Today is Wednesday, June 10th. I’ve just turned the key in the lock of our home for the last time. I walked away without looking back. It’s been a hellish six months since you died. You know I’ve always been a go-getter with a lot of guts – knowing you’re still cheering me […]

Decisions…#6 in the series

Uncategorized | May 29, 2016

…..Incontinence came to Tony in spurts and drips, with much ado. The probability of an accident raised his levels of apprehension when we considered an outing of any kind, however short or close to home. The first time I came home from shopping with a selection of protective underwear, Tony’s reaction was palpable! That irrefutable […]

Decisions…#5 in the series

Uncategorized | May 22, 2016

…In the back of my mind was a nifty phrase, “change the channel” I’d heard on Canada AM, a morning TV program. The subject was not about pushing a button on the remote; it was switching one line of thought to another. Astute reporters and commentators are keenly aware of the flow of conversation in […]

Decisions…#4 in the series

Uncategorized | May 15, 2016

…I read a miserable story online once about “an elderly gent whose poor eyesight and shaking hands made it difficult to eat. After several plates had been broken and glasses spilled, the impatient son and his wife made the old chap sit away from them and eat from a wooden bowl. Their young son was […]

Time, Cause, and Effect – Week 3 of Decisions

Uncategorized | May 8, 2016

…Preparation for any outing from the house required significant planning ahead and increased patience. “Come darling, it’s time to start getting ready to go out. I’ve set out your clothes. You look like an old grizzly bear, how ‘bout a shave first?” I would coax, to start the ball rolling. Sometimes I helped Tony get […]

A New Task – 2nd in a series of Significant Decisions

Uncategorized | May 1, 2016

There were a couple of mix-ups when Tony took the wrong medication at the wrong time, or not at all. It was simply too scary. “Here are four small containers with your pills, Tony. The tops are easy to unscrew. The blue one is for Breakfast, the green one for Lunch, the red one for […]

Important Decisions

Uncategorized | April 24, 2016

I’m beginning a series of posts which address Important Decisions. Please comment if there’s a subject you’re struggling with… Tony fretted about the requirement to take a driver refresher course and written test when he turned 80. He always felt anxious when he had to make a written report, or at exam time. His education […]

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